I was on the math team in high school. (Haha, I love telling people that!! The irony is, I can't even add numbers over ten together anymore without the use of my reverse polish notation calculator) Having just moved to a new school my junior year, this was my first experience with the math team. I can remember our first meet (is that what we called them?) being a humbling experience for me. At the awards presentation at the end of the meet, it came down to our team and another team as the last remaining teams. One would take first, one would take second.
When it was announced that the other team had gotten second, I let out a little "YES!!"(if you've spent much time around me, you know it probably wasn't little.......or quiet) and a fist pump, quickly followed by an attempted five with a friend of mine on the team. My attempts at celebration were met with a look of astonishment from my buddy and some frowns from pretty much everyone else in the room. I was new, how was I suppose to know you didn't celebrate a math team win in our league? This wasn't the last time I would be new and not know the ins and outs of how to act in certain settings.
- Do you remember the day you got your invitation to ActiveRain? (or stumbled across it after reading something on the internet)
- Do you remember thinking "if I play my cards right, I can have the most points in my city in 1 week, my county in 4 weeks, and my state in 2 months"?
- Do you remember setting up your account and only being able to put your name, number, and some simple text in the 'about us', 'areas of expertise' and 'testimonials' areas?
- Do you remember thinking "how the heck did he get his to look so good"?
- Do you remember typing up your first blog and struggling to figure out how the other people get those cool pictures and links in their blogs?
- Do you remember thinking "I will never produce a post that looks like hers"?
If you remember anything like this, or ever had any thoughts similar to this running through your head, you are not alone. In fact, there is someone out there right now, as you are reading this, that is thinking the exact same thing you were a month ago, six months ago, a year ago. A month later, six months later, a year later it must be hard to look back and remember what it felt like.
I'll bet that more than a few of you had someone reach out to you and attempt to show you the way. I'll bet some of you got a call from someone saying, "hey, I saw your recent post. I thought it was great, but maybe you could break it up a little bit, add a link to this word here, and throw in a picture right here....................oh, you don't know how to do a picture, let me show you".
I know this happens. I've had members tell me that another member did just this for them. I've had them tell me they are so grateful for the 20 minutes that senior member spent with them.
Every day I get to speak with, or exchange emails with someone that really wants to participate the right way. They didn't know it wasn't OK (wow, bad double negative) to send contact emails to everyone telling them about their programs. They want to know the right way, but they just signed up today. They were blinded by the seemingly endless possibilities to network.
Every day I get to speak with or exchange emails with someone who thinks it's OK to post all of their listings to the professional category. They don't know that listings are only suppose to be in the consumer area. They want to know the right way, but they just signed up last week. They relished the idea of having 1000's of agents browse past their listing as they read other blogs.
Every day I get to speak with or exchange emails with someone who thinks it's OK to do something that if you've been here a month, six months, or a year you know it isn't OK to do. They want to know the right way. This place, ActiveRain, has so many little nuances that it takes a long time to figure them all out. We at ActiveRain like to assume that people in general have good intentions. Sometimes, because they don't know the ins and outs, it doesn't come off like that.
So I ask you for two things. If you see someone that looks like they could use a hand figuring something out, reach out and offer one. If you see someone that could use a gentle reminder that that's not how we do things here in the rain, reach out and offer a solution and help them understand why. Don't be accusatory, don't be rude, don't call them out in public, but reach out to them because they probably wish they knew how to do it the right way.
And of course, if all else fails.................please, call me, I'll reach out to them :)
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